Portland Public Library

Mating in captivity, reconciling the erotic + the domestic, Esther Perel

eng

Includes bibliographical references (pages 229-238) and index

index present

non fiction

Mating in captivity

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Esther Perel

reconciling the erotic + the domestic

"One of the world's most respected voices on erotic intelligence, Esther Perel offers a bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex. Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home. Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel examines the complexities of sustaining desire. Through case studies and lively discussion, Perel demonstrates how more exciting, playful, and even poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships. Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is straightforward, Mating in Captivity is a sensational book that will transform the way you live and love."--Publisher's websiteA guide for loving couples who are looking to renew sexual passion in their lives explains how societal taboos and ideals about domestic equality have compromised the healthy expression of eroticism in today's relationships

From adventure to captivity : why the quest for security saps erotic vitality -- More intimacy, less sex : love seeks closeness, but desire needs distance -- The pitfalls of modern intimacy : talk is not the only avenue to closeness -- Democracy versus hot sex : desire and egalitarianism don't play by the same rules -- Can do! : the Protestant work ethic takes on the degradation of desire -- Sex is dirty; save it for someone you love : when Puritanism and hedonism collide -- Erotic blueprints : tell me how you were loved, and I'll tell you how to make love -- Parenthood : when three threatens two -- Of flesh and fantasy : in the sanctuary of the erotic mind we find a direct route to pleasure -- The shadow of the third : rethinking fidelity -- Putting the x back in sex : bringing the erotic home